Oppression takes your labor. Suppression shrinks your will. The fix is different.
Two weights
Some things hold you down from outside. Some hold you down from inside. Anthony’s rule: name which one you are facing.
Oppression, defined
Merriam-Webster defines oppression as the unjust or cruel exercise of authority or power. In work, it shows up as labor taken without fair pay.
Suppression, defined
Suppression means putting down or holding back. In people, it is the voice that makes you smaller and talks you out of moving.
Where oppression lives
Unpaid “opportunities.” Rates that never rise. Deals where the other side keeps the money and you keep the exposure.
Where suppression lives
“Who do you think you are?” “Stay humble.” “That will never work.” Said often enough, you start saying it to yourself.
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The science of shrinking
In 1967, psychologist Martin Seligman described learned helplessness: after repeated failure out of their control, subjects stopped trying even when escape was possible.
The good news
Seligman’s later work found helplessness can be unlearned. He called the skill learned optimism.
The white bear
Daniel Wegner’s 1987 study asked people not to think of a white bear. They thought of it more. Pushing a thought down can make it louder.
Fix for oppression
Leave the deal or change its terms. Ask for pay. Value is shown by what someone pays, not what they promise.
Fix for suppression
Cut off the suppressive voice, or limit your time with it. Then replace it with people who build you up.
Mixing them up
If you treat oppression like a mindset problem, you stay in a bad deal. If you treat suppression like a money problem, you stay small.
A quick test
After a meeting, ask: did I lose money or time? That is oppression. Did I lose confidence? That is suppression.
Your scarce resource
Time is the one resource you cannot get back. Every hour spent under either weight is an hour you do not build.
Your cluster
The best defense against both is a cluster of people who pay fairly and speak well of you when you are not in the room.
The takeaway
Name the weight. Then remove it the right way.
Name it out loud
Saying “this is oppression” or “this is suppression” turns a vague weight into a problem with a known fix.
First principles
Value is shown by what someone pays, not what they promise. Name the weight before you fight it.
Sources
- Merriam-Webster, “oppression” and “suppression.”
- M. Seligman and S. Maier (1967), Journal of Experimental Psychology 74.
- M. Seligman, Learned Optimism (1990).
- D. Wegner et al. (1987), “Paradoxical effects of thought suppression,” JPSP 53.
- Anthony Perlas, field account from LA nightlife (his experience, not a survey).
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